What is sex like the first time?

The first time you have sex is different for everyone. You and your partner decide together what you want to do and how to do it. You do not need to have sexual intercourse if you do not feel ready. You can have sex in many different ways. Try to relax. Taking your time can help.

It helps if you avoid disturbances and interruptions. This will help you feel more relaxed. Make sure you are both aroused enough. Stimulate each other, for example, by exploring each other’s bodies. Talk to each other about what you like and what you do not like.

It may hurt a bit the first time you have sexual intercourse. There can be different reasons for this:

• A woman will be less aroused if she feels scared or insecure. Her vagina will remain too dry and her pelvic floor muscles will contract. This means her vagina will be too tight which makes penetration difficult or impossible. Try to relax.
• The foreskin of the man’s penis may be too tight and not slide well over the tip of the penis. You can make this better by regularly pulling the foreskin over the tip. If the pain remains, you should go see a healthcare provider. Men who have been circumcised no longer have a foreskin.

You will only discover what you both like, how and when you can have an orgasm after some time. You do not always need to have an orgasm. Get to know each other better and gain experience.