Routine in relationships

After a period of intense feelings of being in love, it is normal to feel less excited. You get to know each other better and you get used to your relationship. Being together can become routine or predictable.

For some people, routine is a problem, while it can provide calming and reassuring feelings to others. Knowing each other well and being used to each other can also provide stability and security.

If you think routine is a problem, ask yourself:

• Why has my relationship become routine? What are my expectations? What do I want to change, and what do I want to do?
• Have I talked to my partner about my expectations?

If your partner knows you want things to be different, you can try to find solutions together. This can make your relationship more intense. Make time for each other and try to do new activities together. For example, go out of the house together if you feel you are at home too often. You can also try something new if you feel your sex life is boring. It can be exciting and fun.

Changing your routine does not mean the end of your relationship. Also, you do not need to look for excitement outside of the relationship. Ask yourself what it is you want.

Being a parent may also change your relationship with your partner. Learn to make time for each other consciously.